Title: I Went to See My Father
Author: Shin Kyung-sook
Rating: 3,75/5 Stars
Summary: Two years after losing her daughter in a tragic accident, Hon finally returns to her home in the countryside to take care of her father. At first, her father only appears withdrawn and fragile, an aging man, awkward but kind around his own daughter. Then, after stumbling upon a chest of letters, Hon discovers the truth of her father’s past and reconstructs her own family history.
Consumed with her own grief, Hon had been blind to her father’s vulnerability and her family’s fragility. Unraveling secret after secret and thanks to conversations with loving family and friends, Hon grows closer to her father, who proves to be more complex than she ever gave him credit for. After living through one of the most tumultuous times in Korean history, her father’s life was once vibrant and ambitious, but spiraled during the postwar years. Now, after years of emotional isolation, Hon learns the whole truth, from her father’s affair and involvement in a cult, to the dynamic lives of her own siblings, to her family’s financial hardships.
What Hon uncovers about her father builds towards her understanding of the great scope of his sacrifice and heroism, and of her country as a whole. More than just the portrait of a single man, I Went to See My Father opens a window onto humankind, family, loss, and war. With this long-awaited follow-up to Please Look After Mom–flawlessly rendered by award-winning translator Anton Hur–Kyung-Sook Shin has crafted an ambitious, global, epic, and lasting novel.
The ARC of this novel was provided by the publisher via Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review.
I was so looking forward to reading Shin Kyung-sook’s new book. I read Please Look After Mom a few years ago and I’m still mesmerized by it to this day, so I was very happy to get the chance to read this new story in advance.
I wanna start this review by saying that this novel depicts such a heart-breaking and moving story of discovery. Due to her mother being away in the capital for health reasons, the main character, Hon, gets to spend time taking care of her old father in their family home. In the meantime she also gets the chance to discovers who this man really is and all the things that she hadn’t realized when she was just a young girl living in the countryside with her parents and her siblings. Thanks to some old letters that she finds in a shed in the garden, she undertakes a research of sort into the past. She also has the help of the people who have been part or are still part of her father’s life, such as some family members and friends that talk to her and share their experiences and memories related to her father. My favorite moment to read was the letter exchange between the father and his first-born son. The ending of the father’s letters was always the same and it just broke my heart into pieces every single time I read it.
nothing more I would want. as long as you are healthy somewhere under this sky.
I don’t know what it is, but it just got me extremely emotional every time. The fact that the father just wished for the son’s health even when they could not see each other and were miles apart really got to me.
I think this novel really shows how much we may not know the people who have surrounded us our whole lives and also how people are always beings to be discovered, for better and for worse. In the end, even though Hon might find some things she doesn’t agree with or she’s not happy about, I think she also comes to the conclusion that her father really did his best for her and the family as a whole and I didn’t feel any resentment between the two, just a sense of melancholy that really touched my heart.
Overall it was a touching story that definitely had its moments and it also made me shed a few tears. If you’re into family stories I recommend you check out this novel.
Thanks for reading,